Am I the only one or Do you regret certain things you didn't do that you wanted to do ?
It's an interesting question you have to answer but before you do, take a look at my story.
First of all. MA parents separated when I was in JSS 3. Basically I was raised by mom but with dad's support. MA mom was very strict, #realnigerianmom. In fact this is one of the reasons I grew up the way I am; shy, fragile, scared, easily manipulated, bookworm, uncool, holy holy, abeg you know all that.
I never had a boyfriend till SS 2 3rd term. He was a boarding school student and i was a day student in different schools. Basically we only see on hols. We didn't do anything. Not even kiss. I had MA official boyfriend after MA NECO. Although it caused a lot of problem but I did what I had to do.
Home training is one thing that u can't deny.. Although I wanted to misbehave sometimes but then I will look at the home I came from and then I will chill. You know how it feels when you are the disgrace of the family.. It's something u don't wanna be.
Growing up as a teen wasn't so easy.. Even as a child "them dey rush me".. Lemme use that word. There were certain things I experienced that I couldn't tell ma parents. I was molested by my neighbor when I was 7.. I was a child. What will I say that people will believe.. And then one of MA uncle also wanted to try but I stopped him; I was 13 then..
I have always been this good girl that don't wanna hurt people but people hurt me and they do it so bad.. Men I took as God fathers wanted to sleep with me.
I remember when I was a virgin.. MA prayers were answered quickly.. Twas something I knew. The night I was dis-flowered in 2014 September.. I remembered I almost killed myself.. I believed in God. He has done miracles in MA life. I have experience his divine intervention..
At times the thought of being this bad girl everyone wants to roll with, everyone wants, everyone likes, comes to MA mind. I wanted to go clubbing, smoke, drink, fuck different boys, have fun. But then I always got stopped whenever I want to.. Trust me when I say this.. There was a certain time I have arranged ma bag to go to PH to spend weekend with a boy I have never seen in MA life. That's was in MA Year 2 in Diploma before I was dis-flowered.
I just finish locking MA door and was about stepping out when I kicked a Stone. I didn't know where it came from. I was bleeding heavily.. Like there's no way I can travel again. You see it has happened many times.. So I said to myself maybe not every body is meant to do certain things.. Although I wanna do them I just can't.
And then I backslid, couldn't feel the Holy Spirit again. And I said to myself this is the perfect time to do those things I regret not doing because I know nothing will stop me now but then again. I think of what will be ma gain and the answer I got was nothing.. I know being a good girl doesn't pay nowadays o but at least.
Am 23 and I have never done an abortion, I graduated with a good grade, I have never struggled in MA life, I have never been admitted in a hospital for being sick, I have never been arrested. When I think of all these I smile and chill. There are times I wanted to travel and see things for myself..
You know travelling is part of education. but mom won't allow. I wanted to just carry MA bag and leave the house but I couldn't; I wanted to shout at her but it's not a good thing to do. I wanted to just go away but what if I don't survive.
I have always wanted to do the right thing; no matter how much I wanted to do bad things. I just couldn't. That's why up till now I can't double date. I have tried it before. I was caught.
The thing is, goodness is just in me. Even though I don't wanna do it. I will still find myself doing it. I don't think evil about ma friends, family or neighbors, I have MA own definition of fun.
So, most times what people call fun ain't fun for me. But sometimes I wish I have done them. I regret not doing them and not having the experience but then not everyone is meant to experience certain things.
I think that's just how the life works. I really don't have to misbehave to feel among or feel like a big girl. I don't have to fuck 5 boyz a day to enjoy life.I don't have to smoke and drink to get a man's attention. I don't have to be a prostitute to be loved by a good man. The pleasure may seems superb. But what next after the pleasure ??
Although I know if I have been this flexing runs girl I would be richer than I am now; but I would not be alive now. I always say this.
If those girls that died for iPhone 6 knew there will be iPhone X Max. They would still be alive.
The only thing I am still regretting till now is not traveling. But it's not too late. I can still travel. Before you travel out. At least know your home first. Travel round your country before you go out of the country.
Also I regret not doing somethings that mom and dad didn't approve of even though it was right.. Things like learning a handiwork immediately after secondary school. Learning of musical instruments still after secondary school. There are so many places I could have been now if only I didn't listen to them.
But regretting won't solve anything so; making a better tomorrow is the main aim now.
This is not just an article. It's a real life story. And it's my story. To those girls out there that think being a good girl doesn't pay. I wanna encourage you by saying it pays. But it's not now now. It's for the later good.. Don't loose yourself. You will be grateful someday that you didn't.
Don't forget what goes around comes back around.. Karma is a bitch.
You get served what u deserved.
Author: JOQ
Home training is one thing that u can't deny.. Although I wanted to misbehave sometimes but then I will look at the home I came from and then I will chill. You know how it feels when you are the disgrace of the family.. It's something u don't wanna be.
Growing up as a teen wasn't so easy.. Even as a child "them dey rush me".. Lemme use that word. There were certain things I experienced that I couldn't tell ma parents. I was molested by my neighbor when I was 7.. I was a child. What will I say that people will believe.. And then one of MA uncle also wanted to try but I stopped him; I was 13 then..
I have always been this good girl that don't wanna hurt people but people hurt me and they do it so bad.. Men I took as God fathers wanted to sleep with me.
I remember when I was a virgin.. MA prayers were answered quickly.. Twas something I knew. The night I was dis-flowered in 2014 September.. I remembered I almost killed myself.. I believed in God. He has done miracles in MA life. I have experience his divine intervention..
At times the thought of being this bad girl everyone wants to roll with, everyone wants, everyone likes, comes to MA mind. I wanted to go clubbing, smoke, drink, fuck different boys, have fun. But then I always got stopped whenever I want to.. Trust me when I say this.. There was a certain time I have arranged ma bag to go to PH to spend weekend with a boy I have never seen in MA life. That's was in MA Year 2 in Diploma before I was dis-flowered.
I just finish locking MA door and was about stepping out when I kicked a Stone. I didn't know where it came from. I was bleeding heavily.. Like there's no way I can travel again. You see it has happened many times.. So I said to myself maybe not every body is meant to do certain things.. Although I wanna do them I just can't.
And then I backslid, couldn't feel the Holy Spirit again. And I said to myself this is the perfect time to do those things I regret not doing because I know nothing will stop me now but then again. I think of what will be ma gain and the answer I got was nothing.. I know being a good girl doesn't pay nowadays o but at least.
Am 23 and I have never done an abortion, I graduated with a good grade, I have never struggled in MA life, I have never been admitted in a hospital for being sick, I have never been arrested. When I think of all these I smile and chill. There are times I wanted to travel and see things for myself..
You know travelling is part of education. but mom won't allow. I wanted to just carry MA bag and leave the house but I couldn't; I wanted to shout at her but it's not a good thing to do. I wanted to just go away but what if I don't survive.
I have always wanted to do the right thing; no matter how much I wanted to do bad things. I just couldn't. That's why up till now I can't double date. I have tried it before. I was caught.
The thing is, goodness is just in me. Even though I don't wanna do it. I will still find myself doing it. I don't think evil about ma friends, family or neighbors, I have MA own definition of fun.
So, most times what people call fun ain't fun for me. But sometimes I wish I have done them. I regret not doing them and not having the experience but then not everyone is meant to experience certain things.
I think that's just how the life works. I really don't have to misbehave to feel among or feel like a big girl. I don't have to fuck 5 boyz a day to enjoy life.I don't have to smoke and drink to get a man's attention. I don't have to be a prostitute to be loved by a good man. The pleasure may seems superb. But what next after the pleasure ??
Although I know if I have been this flexing runs girl I would be richer than I am now; but I would not be alive now. I always say this.
If those girls that died for iPhone 6 knew there will be iPhone X Max. They would still be alive.
The only thing I am still regretting till now is not traveling. But it's not too late. I can still travel. Before you travel out. At least know your home first. Travel round your country before you go out of the country.
Also I regret not doing somethings that mom and dad didn't approve of even though it was right.. Things like learning a handiwork immediately after secondary school. Learning of musical instruments still after secondary school. There are so many places I could have been now if only I didn't listen to them.
But regretting won't solve anything so; making a better tomorrow is the main aim now.
Don't forget what goes around comes back around.. Karma is a bitch.
You get served what u deserved.
Author: JOQ
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