#WE ARE ALL LIARS

A lie is obviously when you say something that you know is not true. one could tell a lie with intentions to avoid getting into trouble. A lie is an assertion that is believed to be false, typically used with the purpose of deceiving someone. The practice of communicating lies is called lying. A person who communicates a lie may be termed a liar.

Think about a time when you told a lie. 

• Why did you do it ? 
• How did you feel ? 
• What happened ?

Whether we want to admit it or not, lying is a part of life. Each of us has told a lie or two, whether it was to

• get out of trouble (“I didn’t do it.”)
• avoid hurting someone’s feelings (“You look great!”)
• get something we want (“I finished my homework, so I’m going to the movie.”)

Unfortunately, some people do it more than others. And they don’t just lie about little things, but about big things as well.

We lie and we are lied to dozens of times every day. They range from little white lies, such as people telling you they are doing great when in fact they are having a terrible day, to serious lies from loved ones and employers that have the potential to change your life. Being able to understand when, why and how people lie helps you establish more honest relationships and prevent disasters from happening due to falsely informed.

But the fact stands that we are all liars !!

While you might like to think you’re an honest person, statistically speaking you too are a liar. Researchers estimate the average person lies a minimum of once to twice per day. If you don’t believe me, ask yourself these questions:

• Do you ever give people compliments that aren’t completely genuine?
• Have you told someone you were doing well when, in reality, you were exhausted and having a terrible week?
• Do you ever tell people you are busy to avoid having to talk to them for an extended period of time or do something with them?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then you’ve lied. Those are just a couple of the common scenarios that trigger the most lying.

Why we tell LIES

Here are some of the possible reasons why people tell lies

• To get out of trouble, or to avoid getting into trouble.
• To avoid punishment.
• Bragging; to avoid embarrassment (so that they fit in with the group).
• To get someone into trouble.
• To keep a friend out of trouble.
• To make themselves look more interesting to others (by exaggerating, bragging or boasting).
• To protect their privacy eg "What did you do today?" "Nothing!"
• To avoid an awkward social situation. "I can only have three friends to the party. Sorry I can't ask you…"
• To keep secrets.
• So that they don't hurt people's feelings.
• To make up games and have fun.

Lots of people think that there are two kinds of lies, 'bad' lies and 'white' lies.

They think that 'bad' lies are never OK but 'white' lies might be OK. How do you know the difference ?

That, I can not answer. Our sense of judgement diver individually so, I can not tell what someone would lie about that would hurt you the most. Due to the fact, I would say the color of a lie does not matter.

A lie is a lie when you say something that you know is not true. But while sharing this article possible situation came to my mind.

Empathy, the Key to Lying

Lying is done through communication. As humans, we communicate in many different ways, both verbally (talking, sounds) and non-verbally (facial and body gestures).

Another important component of communication is the ability to empathize, or understand what another person might be thinking or feeling. Having empathy is necessary to lie, because you have to understand another person’s thoughts and feelings to be able to make them believe your lie.

For example, a friend asks you for help with her work, but you know she’ll just end up talking about her problems. Because you understand that she values your friendship and don’t want to hurt her feelings, you might tell a lie like, “I’d really like to help you out, but I have a meeting until very late.”

Our ability to speak has increased our capacity for communication and, therefore, for lying as well.

Lying can make people distrust each other and can threaten the cooperation needed to maintain a healthy society.

Luckily, the painful consequences of being caught in a lie is having to face anger, rejection, humiliation, or shame from others.

True Lies

A final point to consider when thinking about lying: What is the truth? Is there such a thing as “absolute truth”?

One expert suggests that some people who lie a lot can actually come to believe that their lies are true (“true lies”). So a statement can be true for the person making it and false for other people and in reality.

How confusing is that?

As a result, it is often as hard to determine what is true and what is not. All we can do is be aware and keep trying to tell the difference.